So much of who you are, comes from who you’re with. That’s not to say that who used to be in your life can’t effect you. They absolutely can. It’s just that the people you hang out with on a regular basis really effect who you are. And how you experience your life. If those current relationships are troubled, well then things can feel pretty bad.
A pretty impressive piece of research identified a community that had lots of “bad” habits like smoking, drinking, etc, Habits that we all know lead to health issues and statistically an earlier death. But in this community, members defied the odds, and lived longer by significant numbers. Researchers were baffled. Why? After extended research over years, the conclusion might surprise you. It was because of WHO they were traveling with! This community was emotionally connected in ways that trumped negative lifestyle. For the impressive research details click here.
If the people you’re hanging out with are bringing you down. Or if your relationships are more negative than positive, it can feel pretty bad. And, I’m here to tell you that things don’t have to stay bad. There are ways of re-working the way you participate in your most important relationships. I promise you there are.
Most of us have not been taught how to manage the complex challenges of a defiant child, an angry partner or an emotionally vacant spouse. And yet most of us have to deal with these and other types of complex and difficult relationships. I really wish some core relationship strategies were taught in our schools!
If you’re struggling and would like help, please feel free to contact me. Sometimes that first call can be the hardest. But I promise, things can absolutely get better and sometimes even really good again!